@codl one important thing to be able to express is that something has happened and you're feeling not necessarily indifferent towards it but maybe at least a bit, but also there probably is nothing you can or at least nothing you will do. to do this, what you do is blow up your cheeks, let out some air, and then say "tja"

the customary response, if someone does this, is "machste nix"

@codl you can shrug your shoulders, but it's not mandatory. but you can do it, if you want.

@halcy is this equivalent to Charlie brown saying "good grief" while staring into the fourth wall

@codl it's sadder, probably