ven @nventous@chitter.xyz

at this point in time i am really uncomfortable with people touching me, flirting with me, roleplaying these forms of affection (such as sending messages like "*hugs*"), etc. without discussing it with me prior.

please ask before doing this stuff unless i've given you the general go-ahead to interact with me in these ways!

just a heads up i tend to fav things both as a show of enthusiasm or a show of supportiveness, so if i fav a negative/sad/etc. post think of it as me sending encouragement/love ur way - though if faves on negative posts bother anyone i do it to, plz say so and i'll avoid!

LB look
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baby boy
i love my boy

don't look away

https://twitter.com/ECMcLaughlin/status/1139192167501484033

https://www.texasmonthly.com/news/border-patrol-outdoor-detention-migrants-el-paso/

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i see merit on all points i've seen on this and while i don't necessarily think my emoji usage is the most important part of my praxis to mull over, it's still something i wish to consider and i've seen enough conflicting opinion that i need like... more thoughts to synthesize i guess?

i greatly greatly appreciate anyone who gives me any of their time on this

i read an article awhile back about how white people shy away from using emoji matching their skin tone and opt for the yellow instead which has implications about white being the default

i have also seen multiple people here on mastodon/discord personally finding it distasteful, however, when white people don't use the yellow emoji and opt for a modifier near their IRL skin tone b/c of like... parading it ig?

i have seen multiple conflicting opinions on white people's usage of skin tone modifiers with emoji and it's been enough to make me take pause and think about how i'm using them a few times now

i have tried to muse over this myself and do research but at this point i'd appreciate hearing relevant peoples' opinions on white people using yellow emoji vs. those with a skin tone that matches their IRL skin tone

(my bf takes rly good photos though wow!!! 💖)

LB my son is trying to eat my other son :(

a good friend of mine is taking commissions - go check out their work, it is really good!! https://twitter.com/mercurycarli/status/1128106697178996737

when my timeline is meta griping almost every day i visit here, it makes me kinda wonder what the point of visiting is in the first place

idk if anyone here cares about v-pets but i'm working on a little thing

tbh i also feel it does nobody favors for trying to smash toxic masculinity in favor of uplifting positive expressions of masculinity, which is something we should all be hardcore striving for as feminists and activists imo if our goal is to eradicate the patriarchy and its toxic effects on everyone

idk i understand the need for venting but i would appreciate if people could consider a) time and place, b) that what they are expressing could indeed be harmful

less and less of a fan of "fuck all men" rhetoric; i used to brush it off as harmless venting (and can still understand where it comes from, as someone who has very much been marginalized/mistreated by men myself) but at this point i feel it does cause material harm, not just "mens hurt fee-fees over having their privilege challenged" - i've seen lots of transmasc people express that this stuff kept them closeted for ages, transfeminine people express that it hurts them too...

i hear a fair bit of "people engaging in [kink] might think it's fulfilling but they're just doing something bad and harmful to themselves" tripe that sounds reeeeal eerily similar to things like "women can't engage in sex consensually with men" (TERF rhetoric) or "the queers might think they're happy with their degeneracy now but they'll burn in hell later love the sinner hate the sin :^) "

nearly all of the kink-critical stuff i've seen in parts of the left lately (i'm sure it's been around before but previously i didn't see folx my age so swept up into it) smacks of both TERF shit + the same type of puritanical thoughtcrime moralizing that i fled the bible belt partially in order to escape