aster @variance@chitter.xyz

there is an art to being agender, or rather a knack. the knack lies in learning how to throw yourself at gender and miss

I have a lot of feelings about gender. most of them are stuff like “nope” and [incoherent screaming].

absolutely fucking classic of cishet men to say “I’d fuck a trans woman” to “show” that they’re not transphobic

yikes

so many cis people I know irl in particular seem to forget that this is a thing that you can do; people who fuck things up after years of being told otherwise, so I have to take them aside and go “look, you’re gonna have to do a bit of work, it’s the least you can do”

tip to not fuck up your friend’s pronouns, especially if they’ve changed their pronouns recently: practice them when your friend isn’t around

practice your friend’s pronouns to yourself out loud. repeat phrases that you often say about them with the correct pronouns to yourself. likewise if they ask you to use a different name, say their name and pronouns to yourself over and over again. mistakes happen, but you can reduce the frequency of the mistakes by practicing

alright I have emerged from the bed, fear me

alright, it’s “slowly roll off the bed and onto the floor” time for me

it is so comfortable in this bed but I have to vacate it eventually

love 2 lie in bed in the morning

alright I am finally ready to lie down in bed

lying down in bed is p nice actually

turns out I never deleted neko atsume

real introspection hours

is my problem that I’m not approachable or just that I’m boring lol

prob the latter bc I’m not exactly intimidating (I don’t think?)

maybe I need to be more approachable somehow bc I hear from other trans friends of mine that lots of other trans people ask them for advice and stuff but nobody really asks me things

ofc I don’t owe anybody info but I like feeling useful I guess lol

basically I’m at the sort of level where if you do something for long enough, you tend to get at least moderately competent at it even if you don’t try very hard I guess