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Yesterday I asked for some ideas for casual expressions as an alternative to girlfriend/boyfriend.

In the image (alt text included) are some of the English terms people like to use to refer to a person they’re romantically with/dating without specifying the gender.

I like the idea of “my person”. If I was still in the very early stages of dating I might just say “the person I’m dating”.
There’s so many ways to speak about someone without specifying the gender if using their name isn’t an option.

Many queer people are used to being cautious about coming out to people so many of us are practiced at not specifying gender when speaking of people we’re attracted to and/or in a relationship with, but many cis-hetero people are not. Safety isn’t as much of an issue for them.
In Canada and US the terms “co-parent”, “partner” or “spouse” are being used more often by everyone of any gender or sexuality but sometimes those terms just don’t fit the situation.

These are just some options to fill that gap.

#InternationalNonBinaryDay #NonBinaryPeoplesDay
#NonbinaryAwarenessWeek

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So now I can say, I'm agender, one of the many expressions falling under the non-binary umbrella. And I've known and identified (although not necessarily using that word) for nearly 30 years. And I'm in my 50s now.

Being non-binary is not a new thing. It's not a fad, not just something "the kids" are into.

We have always been here.

(Although it usually feels like I'm having to carve out the elder non-binary pathway on my own.)

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I first wrote about having a gender other than "male" or "female" in 1994 (as far as I can trust dates on old files.)

That's 29 years ago.

I've transitioned to change my outward appearance since then, but the same gender identity has remained at the core of it.

People were still scraping around for words to describe this experience in English back then. The web as something the general public, for such of the general public as had internet access, was less than a year old. Eventually it became something where we could connect, sort out our terminology and titles, raise a flag.

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